You might hear about those who miss their family because their parents passed away or traveled abroad! What about someone who lost his family because his parents got divorced for very tiny and silly reasons. Unfortunately they forget that they have sons or daughters and they did not really care about that. They just thought of themselves only. They are very selfish, aren't they?!
Why do you think parents get divorced easily? Do you think money is one of main reasons? Okay, look at this picture... What can you see? A very poor family living in a very small house. All of them are sleeping on one bed as the father is not rich enough to get his family more than that. But, you will notice that they are very happy!
Please understand that the only victims in these situations are sons and daughters as they get upset and depressed after that, and their life gets affected in the future. You can trust me as I am one of these victims and it happened to me 6 months ago and it is really painful!
So, parents and couples, I hope you understand that and be careful that your sons and daughters do not need your money only, they need a very warm family and really need your love.
Let me end by this nice quote:
I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich. "Dan Wilcox and Thad Mumford"
Thanks to my dear friend Marianne as she gave me this photo.
Well, I will give you my answer from a practical divorce experience. Although that the reasons are almost never understandable by the children, but at that time and at under the circumstances when the divorce happened it was just the only thing to do. You have to know this though, divorce does not mean that they hate each other, or love their children any less. It just means that they can't live together anymore, and believe me most times this is for the better because if they continued living together they probably would have hated each other and that would be bad for the kids. I guess the best thing to do is not to be mad at either of them, the best thing to do is just love them for not putting you through what may have happened if it continued when it should have not. wallaho a3lam. Wishing you all the inner peace possible :o) Sam :)
ReplyDeleteit needs too much courage and strength to overcome the pain within the human soul for writing about our pain and addressing the problems of our life, disclosing our own problems and lying it down to be discussed is a big step to overcome this pain.
ReplyDeleteI don’t like to discuss a specific issue but generally as it is allowed and permitted to let Spouses to get divorce, then it is them own choice. Also I want to say that sometime we see the matter from our own side.. but it is totally different in the other side.
Anyways, your words are very impressive. It took much time last night thinking about it… if we really though it is a big challenge for the kids. So let us avoid our kids from facing such a challenge.
Wishing you all the best my dear friend.
Ahmad Abdulkader
woooow,, but very dull :( Maram
ReplyDeleteMohammed, dear Emmz, your post is very impressive and it touched my soul. I can understand how hard it is, especially when both of the parents are alive and have no execuse for not being there for us. All what I can say is that I feel that God will reward you and you will have a beautiful warm family of your own
ReplyDeleteyour words really touched me.
ReplyDeletei felt the words as if my little son is saying it to me ..YES I'M Single MUM , Divorce was essential to me although me and his father admire him .
His father never thought of being apart from his kid and me i never though that one day i'll put my child in this situation .
i know he miss his father most of the time:(
Money wasn't the main isuess!! it is Combination of things that you will never be able to live without!!
Your father and Mother love you more than you can imagine, both of them had lots of Enough PAIN.
So help them by thinking postive and look to the cube from different sides . help them cure their pains , they really need it.
Thanks my dearest friends for your nice comments, the last one: can you please let me know who you are? :)
ReplyDeleteWhat u said is very true, no matter what the problem is the parents should look at why they got married in the first place, there must B something to work with in the relationship, marriage is work both have to work on it no one said it is easy, there is ups and downs in life good and bad, and that what make it worth living, children should B a pariority to the parent, And parents please keep ur problems for your selves dont involve ur parents , ur friend, and ur siblings woek on it together keep it contained, and love and forgive because love brought u together in the first place, remember that moment and work on ur marriage for the sake of ur children, sacrifice a little
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